Stephen and I get together weekly to talk about family ministry, about how our programs for kids coincide and the families that we serve. There are a number of things that have come out that weigh on us both. We strive to be a place that helps equip families. There is no way for us to teach your children all there is to know about being a Christ follower. That must come and needs to come from you as their parents.Your children look up to you and follow you. They mimic you. Preschool children role play what they want to be when they grow up and usually it is who and what their parents are. So I ask who are you role playing? Who are you looking up to? Because your children are following you.
We have a family resource library upstairs in the kids wing and the number of people taking those books out is small. Yet, we have parents talking to us or simply as we observe them, that are searching for answers on how to raise their kids in today’s society. We have parents saying they don’t know how to pray with their kids. Parents who say they are scared to talk to their kids about sex. How do I deal with this or that? The easy way out is to just hope it all works out. Keep bringing them to church and they will choose Jesus. This will not work. You have to be involved. We are providing resources for you, and for your kids. You want the best for your kids, you want them to choose to follow Jesus… be proactive.
We are planning a one day event in March for parents of preteen kids. The response we have gotten for this day is upsetting. We are trying to reach out and prepare you and your kids for the world of adolescence. The reality is we live in a society where unhealthy sexuality is thriving. The messages kids are getting at younger and younger ages is appalling. This is not something to fear but it is something that you should be educated and prepared for. It is so important for you to be proactive as parents instead of reactive. We are trying to prepare you so that you don’t have to come back to us when your promiscuous youth is rebelling. When you find out your child is sleeping with their boyfriend or girlfriend. It is not a matter of one partner anymore, it’s multiple with today’s youth. And the pressures for your kids to fit into this popular trend will be real. And in many circumstances they already are. Girls in particular are sexualized very early in life and you need to be aware of this and talk to them about it. You can not rely on us to do this for you. ( Here is a great website for parenting girls.)
Be proactive, rather than reactive.
Take out the books we have available for you. Come to events and days that are designed for you. Look at the take home sheets and use them. We are putting in effort and time to equip you, to encourage you. We have an outside perspective and we hear and see things you may not.
Most of all – pray for your kids and always be pointing them to Jesus.